Can you imagine yourself that you were waiting for your result to be released? My experience was after the final examination sitting, I was waiting the result to come out after a month or two AT LEAST. It didn't come out until 3 days ago. Was afraid of my result that couldn't sustain my scholarship. In fact, with these, boleh cari makan and I am able to maintain it! Still got one more semester to go and graduate by early of year 2012 by God's will. I am kind of an impatient guy or maybe "kiasu" just like can't wait for the result to release. I thank God for giving me this result and also would like to express my gratitude to my beloved friends who have been praying for me (requested by me). People around me have supported me well in physical, emotion, and spiritual and I was encouraged. I would love to have all of your continuance support and encouragement. Special thanks to lecturers (Mr.Sum, Mr.Chow, Mr.Kumar & Mr.Veerapan) who have been patient with my annoyance (asking too much silly questions, out of topic and so on) and guided me well. All praise and glory and honor to GOD!HALLELUJAH!
In my lifetime, I’ve done more talks on relationships than I could ever have. While some students gloat in pride that they’ve heard it all, they seem to take off to another route once reality hits, totally abandoning all their knowledge and promises just because they feel they are in love with “THE” person.
If you are one of those seriously thinking of getting hitched because you feel it’s time, I’ve listed a few pointers below. They are not exhaustive and I do not include aspects such as intimacy but you may find them helpful to consider in order to experience God’s best life.
You Are Complete Just because Eve was made from Adam’s side, you don’t have to go around searching for your lost rib to be complete. You are complete in Christ and being perfected everyday. When you marry, you compliment each other and make the ONENESS in marriage a strong foundation. If you still haven’t found a partner, you are more than capable of living a successful and happy life without crying out, “I’m so lonely, nobody loves me, I’m gonna eat some worms!”. Stop that nonsense, enjoy your single-hood, have lots of good friends and live life to the fullest because happiness is not dependent on having a husband or wife. It is dependent on what you make of it, even while you are still single.
Love Not Lust Every time someone says, “I love that girl or guy”, I wonder if it means “I lust after him or her”. “Come on, are you saying we’re incapable of loving?” No, in fact we are made in such a creative way where we want to give love and to receive love. But it doesn’t happen overnight. It is nurtured, unconditional, unselfish and sets boundaries. An individual needs to examine his or her motives i.e., lacking family love, insecurity, peer pressured or sheer impatience. Love fuels integrity and is patient to wait without demanding.
Take Your Time What’s the hurry? Enjoy pure, inspiring and educational guy/girl relationships without the attraction signals coming on. Learning to communicate with the opposite sex is a skill in itself. It is developed over time so you just get better. It’s so fun to be able to talk and spend time together in a group rather than pair off and isolate yourselves. Leave the excitement of romance and wanting to belong to someone outside and keep to building strong friendships that last. Only time will tell whether this particular person is whom God is leading you to. Don’t just dive in. It may be shallow and you’ll end up wounding yourself.
Romance Evangelism Cut the crap about evangelising the other party because he or she is not in the faith. Lead him or her to the Lord, not to yourself. How many times have we heard someone say, “Oh, but I love him/her... so how?” No matter how much you feel attracted to that person and can’t live without him or her, don’t mix your priorities. Evangelism means reaching people to know God, not fall in love with them. If you can’t handle your feelings, always try to arrange for a group of friends to befriend him/her and let evangelism work from there. Meanwhile, be true to your God who will never short change you.
Respect There must be mutual respect between the parties. Ladies, you need to respect the man you are marrying because he will be the head of the home. If you can’t respect him, you’ll end up running the whole show. That’s domineering in nature - bad move. Guys, respect the ladies so that you don’t take advantage of her. And if you do - it’s chauvinistic. Develop Yourself If you’re not currently involved, take the season of your single-hood as a time of self-development. Having vision for your life and developing yourself intellectually and spiritually is important. If you spend all your time worrying about who you will marry, when, why not, etc., you will eventually find that you've lost precious time on mere questions and fears. Instead, aim to be useful and productive everyday. If you are pursued, you wouldn’t just date every Tom or Jackie that comes your way because you already know what you want. Keep your standards high and either wisely turn the person down or decide to prayerfully pursue the possibilities.
Pray If you can take so much trouble to research on which college to enroll in, how much more a life-partner. Pray and commit your desires to God. Let Him bring you to that person.
When you do find the dream person of your life, it is pure bliss. Marriage is sweet even when you learn to adjust to the differences. However, the right person at the wrong time or the wrong person at the right time will cause you to stumble and thinking that marriage is not for you. Therefore, carefully tread the fragile surface of relationships and you will find you